Gemma Collins suffered a third devastating miscarriage in July after falling pregnant with her ex-boyfriend James Argent’s baby.
The TOWIE star, 39, spoke out about her heartbreaking loss after Meghan Markle announced she had lost her second child with Prince Harry.
‘I’ve been trying to have a baby for nearly a decade now, only to have my hopes dashed time and again by first one miscarriage, then another.’
Tragedy: Gemma Collins suffered a third devastating miscarriage in July (pictured 2019)
In a poignant essay, Gemma detailed the beginning of her miscarriage and said she had no idea she was pregnant with on-off boyfriend Arg’s baby, before she started experiencing sharp cramps one morning.
The reality star said she had dismissed the pains as a heavy period, and tried to push on through the excruciating pain, before her sister forced her to visit her doctor.
After being sent to hospital, Gemma was given the tragic news that she had suffered a miscarriage.
She continued: ‘In a single instant, I learned that I’d been carrying a baby and lost it, meaning that once again I found my longstanding dreams of motherhood shattered into pieces.’
Split: In a poignant essay Gemma said she had no idea she was pregnant with ex partner James Argent’s baby, before she started experiencing sharp cramps one morning (pictured October 2018)
Gemma said she refuses to give up on her dream of becoming a mother and that she thinks about the miscarriage ‘every day.’
The Diva Forever star added that she was finding it tough being single since breaking up from Arg in July, and, on bad days, fears her three miscarriages were her only chance to become a mother.
Gemma is now trusting in fate, saying she knows when the time for her to become a mother arrives, she will give them a cherished life worlds away from ‘the world of GC.’
In August, Gemma revealed she suffered a miscarriage during lockdown during an appearance on Loose Women.
Devastating: The star said she had dismissed the pains as a heavy period, and tried to push on through the excruciating pain, before her sister forced her to visit her doctor
Speaking about her Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS), Gemma explained she didn’t realise she was in the midst of a miscarriage and thought she was having a heavy period.
Gemma, who also had a miscarriage in 2012, told the ITV show: ‘It was really difficult for me in isolation because with my condition of PCOS, it’s not easy to fall pregnant and I did suffer a miscarriage which was really sad during the lockdown period.’
She added: ‘I have suffered with it for the last 10 years. I started to gain weight when I was 28, my periods were all over the place. I’ve suffered miscarriages.
‘I did go through a very sad miscarriage in lockdown. Due to PCOS I just thought that I was having an unusually heavy period. I actually left it 10 days.’
Exes: The Diva Forever star added that she was finding it tough being single since breaking up from Arg in July, and, on bad days, fears her three miscarriages were her only chance to become a mother (pictured together in 2019)
‘I can remember thinking the month before, “Ooh, my boobs seem really perky!” It’s been no secret recently that I’ve found my boobs so heavy in my life, I’m turning 40 this year, I will not be taking them into the next decade with me.’
‘So, I thought, “Oh, maybe I won’t have the operation, I’ve been working out, maybe they’re lifting up a bit”.
‘Then three or four days into a heavy period really realising it’s not like a usual period… but thinking there’s been a lot going on lately, maybe my body’s been a bit stressed.’
Gemma explained it was her sister-in-law who advised her to seek medical attention, continuing: ‘It went on for 10 days between 9am and midday, I was getting through 10 super sanity towels.
‘Then it was my sister-in-law, not to be graphic, but I had to show her.’
‘I said, “I don’t think this is normal”. I rang my doctor and he said, “You need to go straight to the hospital”.
Sad news:In August Gemma revealed she suffered a miscarriage during lockdown
‘It was very sad. But it does make me realise that, potentially there is hope there for me for the future.’
Gemma went on to explain that she’s since had a series of checks and revealed her recent weight loss was due to doctors telling her she may be able to conceive naturally if she dropped some weight.
‘I went and saw a top specialist. I have had myself checked and he has actually told me – this is why I went on a massive weight loss journey this year.’
‘I’ve been doing it slowly, it’s not been a massive fast, rapid thing, I want it to stay off this time – he said to me, “You’ve got no cysts on your ovaries anymore, that’s cleared up.
‘So, we’re winning. You do suffer from the syndrome so you do get the symptoms that go with it. But your cervix and everything is perfect for when you’re ready.
‘However, you need to get your weight down, you need to get at least another two stone off”.’
‘And when it comes to it they might be able to give me something called Clomid which could potentially speed the process up. So hopefully George Clooney will be available around that time.’
How at least one in six pregnancies ends in a miscarriage
One in six pregnancies in women who know they are pregnant become miscarriages.
But even more happen among women who don’t know they have conceived.
Miscarriage occurs when a pregnancy is lost within the first 23 weeks after conception.
The main symptoms are bleeding from the vagina, which may be accompanied by lower abdominal pain.
There are various reasons women may have a miscarriage – it is common and is not usually caused by something they have done.
If a miscarriage happens in the second trimester – between weeks 14 and 26 – it may be a sign of an underlying problem.
Often, miscarriages are isolated events and women will go on to have successful pregnancies.
The majority of miscarriages can’t be prevented, although being generally healthy will help reduce the risk.
Losing three or more pregnancies in a row – known as recurrent miscarriages – is uncommon but still affects around one in 100 women.
Gemma confessed: ‘I pray every night that everything’s going to work out for me.
‘I’ve been quite lucky with my career but my personal life is heart-breaking.
‘Having the miscarriage with someone you love very much was very heart-breaking.’
Asked if she’d use a sperm bank she said: ‘My lovely gay besties have all put themselves up for the job.
‘But yeah, there’s that option. You know I’ve got my nephews and I treat them like my own.’
‘But do you know what, if I had to go down that route I will do it. I’ve got no qualms in that.
‘I’m very open and honest. I will have a baby and I do want a baby.
‘And also, every mother will know this, I want to feel motherhood… I’ve not had the physical experience of being a full time mum.
‘I don’t want that robbed from me in my life, that would be a travesty.
‘There’s so many good options out there, like adoption. Madonna’s done it, Angelina Jolie, The GC could be next.
‘I do hold onto that dream that I will be able to conceive naturally and be the mum and give all the love I’ve got.
‘That’s really the only bad thing in my life [that I haven’t had that].’
Gemma said she’d swap her fame for motherhood: ‘Absolutely, if I could trade places with it tomorrow, I would.’
Of turning 40, Gemma said: ‘I do feel that I’m still a spring chicken and I think the 40s for me, I’ve grown up a lot, I’ve learnt a lot, I’ve had a lot of life experiences that have given me a wealth of knowledge now.
‘My party… we’re in August, we’ve already started early plans. I’m going into my 40s with a bang!
‘It’s not going to be some quiet shindig. This is going to be ‘move over J-Lo, there’s going to be a big party in town’. I’m not sad about it, I’m embracing my 40s.’
Gemma recently spoke about her 2012 miscarriage. The reality star, who did not realise she was pregnant at the time, said that the baby ‘died in front of her’ after giving birth four months into the pregnancy at home on her landing.
Speaking on her podcast, Gemma said: ‘I’ve had some shocking things happen to me, I’m not sure I’ve spoken about this before.
‘But I actually gave birth to a child, sadly, and basically the child was four months old, basically I had a miscarriage but obviously the baby was formed and it died in front of me.’
‘I had to go to the hospital and my mum was there. I can remember my mum being really upset, I was in shock, I was upset.
‘That was really a shocking moment for me. But this is what I’m saying, I can talk about it now. Things sometimes are not meant to be.
‘I’ll never forget it, it was a very traumatising experience because I didn’t know I was pregnant and literally I remember waking up with severe pains and my mum said to me, “Gemma you need to go to the toilet,” and I was like, “Honey, this is not…”
‘I mean obviously I couldn’t describe… Look I try and find the bit of entertainment in this bad situation because I think that’s probably a coping mechanism of mine, I try to laugh or see a brighter side in things even though it was really traumatic.
‘But I can remember just being in utter shock. I’ve been through a lot so I feel in life, nothing shocks me.
For confidential support please contact the Miscarriage Association on 01924 200799 or email email@example.com
What is Polycystic Ovary Syndrome?
Polycystic ovary syndrome is a hormonal disorder causing enlarged ovaries with small cysts on the outer edges.
Polycystic ovaries contain a large number of harmless follicles that are up to 8mm (approximately 0.3in) in size.
The follicles are underdeveloped sacs in which eggs develop. In PCOS, these sacs are often unable to release an egg, which means ovulation does not take place.
It’s difficult to know exactly how many women have PCOS, but it’s thought to be very common, affecting about 1 in every 5 women in the UK.
The 3 main features of PCOS are: irregular periods – which means your ovaries do not regularly release eggs (ovulation) excess androgen
– high levels of ‘male’ hormones in your body, which may cause physical signs such as excess facial or body hair polycystic ovaries
– your ovaries become enlarged and contain many fluid-filled sacs (follicles) that surround the eggs (but despite the name, you do not actually have cysts if you have PCOS)
Source: NHS website